Why Your Best Friend Really is You!

Jan 18, 2024

What we think eventually becomes true, as our thoughts influence our actions and decisions, which in turn inform our life outcomes. Several books delve into this concept and help us reel in our thoughts, beliefs, and habits to our advantage. For me, a key turning point was getting to know myself and loving myself, seeing weaknesses as areas for growth rather than proverbial sticks. In the pursuit of professional excellence, self-discovery is a non-negotiable imperative. By delving into your strengths, values, motivations, and aspirations, you unlock a myriad of benefits—from aligning with fulfilling career paths and enhancing emotional intelligence to optimizing performance, fostering resilience, and cultivating authentic leadership.

What defines a best friend? Isn’t it the person whom you can count on, no matter what? Trust is the foundation of any strong friendship, and it stems from truly knowing the other person.

 

Early in my entrepreneurial journey, I came across several tools and techniques aimed at self-discovery. These helped me understand my strengths, areas for growth, and potential pressure points. Looking back, I’m grateful that I made self-discovery a priority early on. Many people find self-discovery uncomfortable, but our thoughts shape our reality.

 

What we think eventually becomes true, as our thoughts influence our actions and decisions, which in turn inform our life outcomes. Several books delve into this concept and help us reel in our thoughts, beliefs, and habits to our advantage.

 

For me, a key turning point was getting to know myself and loving myself, seeing weaknesses as areas for growth rather than proverbial sticks.

 

In a fast-paced and unpredictable world, professionals are constantly looking for ways to stay relevant, competitive, and fulfilled in their careers. While skills, qualifications, and experience are undoubtedly essential, self-discovery is often overlooked, despite being the key to sustainable success.

 

Understanding oneself is not only a personal journey but also a professional imperative – here is why I maintain this point of view:

 

  1. Alignment with career choices: When you’re aligned with your authentic self, you’re more likely to choose roles, projects, and opportunities that genuinely excite and fulfil you. This alignment translates to increased motivation, job satisfaction, and, ultimately, superior performance.

 

  1. Enhanced emotional intelligence: By understanding your emotions, motivations, and triggers, you develop empathy, self-regulation, and practical interpersonal skills. These competencies are invaluable whether you’re leading a team, collaborating with peers, or managing client relationships.

 

  1. Optimized performance: Understanding your unique strengths allows you to position yourself strategically and contribute value where it matters most.

 

  1. Resilience and adaptability: The modern professional landscape is fraught with uncertainties, disruptions, and challenges. By understanding your core values and motivations, you develop a robust sense of purpose that anchors you during turbulent times.

 

  1. Authentic leadership: Prioritizing self-discovery has a profound impact on leadership effectiveness. Authentic leaders, grounded in self-awareness and integrity, inspire trust, foster collaboration, and drive organizational success. By embracing your authentic self, you cultivate a leadership style that resonates with your team, stakeholders, and peers. This genuine leadership approach boosts loyalty, engagement, and a shared commitment to shared goals and values.

 

One of the most useful tools I have found is the DISC behavioural profiling system, which categorizes behaviour into four primary personality traits:

 

  • Dominance (D): Assertive, results-oriented individuals who value challenges and control.
  • Influence (I): Enthusiastic, outgoing individuals who prioritize collaboration and relationships.
  • Steadiness (S): Patient, dependable individuals who value stability and cooperation.
  • Conscientiousness (C): Detail-oriented, analytical individuals who prioritize quality and accuracy.

 

Understanding your DISC profile enables you to tailor your communication style and foster more effective interactions with team members, investors, and stakeholders. It also empowers you to make data-driven decisions aligned with your inherent strengths and tendencies. For instance, individuals with a dominant (D) profile may excel in driving strategic initiatives, while those with a steadiness (S) profile might thrive in roles requiring meticulous planning and execution. By aligning tasks and responsibilities with your DISC profile, you optimize productivity, mitigate risks, and expedite business growth. By understanding your behavioural tendencies and potential blind spots, you can proactively adapt your leadership style, cultivate essential competencies, and foster a culture of continuous learning and innovation.

 

In the pursuit of professional excellence, self-discovery is a non-negotiable imperative. By delving into your strengths, values, motivations, and aspirations, you unlock a myriad of benefits—from aligning with fulfilling career paths and enhancing emotional intelligence to optimizing performance, fostering resilience, and cultivating authentic leadership. As the landscape of work continues to evolve, investing in self-discovery remains a timeless and invaluable investment in your professional growth and success. Embrace the journey within, and watch as it transforms.

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